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Forms
of Child Abuse
Physical
abuse
Any
non-accidental injury to a child. This includes hitting, kicking, slapping,
shaking, burning, pinching, hair pulling, biting, choking, throwing, shoving,
whipping, and paddling.
Sexual
abuse
Any
sexual act between an adult and child. This includes fondling, penetration,
intercourse, exploitation, pornography, exhibitionism, child prostitution,
group sex, oral sex, or forced observation of sexual acts.
Neglect
Failure
to provide for a child’s physical needs. This includes lack of supervision,
inappropriate housing or shelter, inadequate provision of food and water,
inappropriate clothing for season or weather, abandonment, denial of medical
care and inadequate hygiene.
Emotional
abuse
Any
attitude or behaviour which interferes with a child’s mental health or social
development. This includes yelling, screaming, name-calling, shaming, negative
comparisons to others, telling them they are “bad, no good, worthless” or “a
mistake.” It also includes the failure to provide the affection and support
necessary for the development of a child’s emotional, social, physical
and intellectual well-being. This includes ignoring, lack of
appropriate physical affection (hugs), not saying “I love you,” withdrawal of
attention, lack of praise and lack of positive reinforcement.
Here are some actions you can take to help children and their parents.
1. Be
a good example.
Respect your family members. Use a courteous tone of voice with them. When
children misbehave, let them know that you dislike what they did, not who they
are. Don't hit your kids; violence teaches violence. Apologize when you're
wrong. Say "I love you" more often. Reward good behaviour.
2. Be
a friend to a parent.
Listen. Sometimes, just being able to express anger and frustration helps ease
tensions. Go shopping with a parent and child. Children are usually better
behaved when their adults are happier and more relaxed. Invite a parent to go
jogging or bowling or golfing. Exercise helps relieve stress.
3. Reach
out to neighbours or relatives with children.
Offer to babysit to give them a much-needed break.
4. Praise
and encourage the children you know.
Mean words can make a child feel worthless, ugly, and unloved, and the hurt can
last a lifetime. So be positive. Tell a child you're proud of her and why.
Stick up for her; don't let others tease or make fun of her. Smile. Let her
know she is important to you. Say, "You're terrific. I like you!"
5.
Take action...don't wait for someone else to do it!
Arrange for a speaker on child abuse and neglect to come to your temple,
church, club, or workplace. The more we all know about abuse and neglect, the
more we can do to stop it.
6. Organize safety systems for your
neighbourhood.
Arrange for neighbours who are at home most of the day to watch out for
children on their way to and from school. Set up "safe houses" where
children can go if they feel threatened or afraid. Participate in a telephone
network for neighbourhood children who are home alone after school and need
help, advice, or reassurance.
7. Volunteer.
Volunteer your time in a child crisis shelter, parenting support program, drug
abuse prevention or treatment program, or shelter for the homeless.
8. Form
a Carpenters Guild.
Work with others in your temple, church, mosque, club, workplace or social
organisation to repair homes of disadvantaged families to make them more
liveable for children.
9. Start
a resource room.
Call your local authority and collect diapers, clothing, toys, books, and
formula to help ease the transition for children who must be removed from their
homes because of abuse and neglect.
10.
Work in a day-care centre.
Volunteer your time in a day-care centre that serves abused and neglected
children. Work with your temple church, club, or organization to form a
partnership with a child-care centre that serves low-income children.
11. Be
a mentor.
Help a pregnant teenager learn parenting skills. Or be a mentor to a pre-teen
through one of the school mentoring programs.
12. Learn
more about child abuse and child abuse prevention.
Teach others. Plan an adult education program in your church, club, or
organization to inform people about children's needs. Open your group's
facility to local education programs for parents.
13. Become
a foster parent.
It's
not an easy job, but the rewards are great when you help a child learn what it
feels like to be safe.
14. Get
involved with the child welfare body
This
could be done either provincial or district level with those who are
responsible for.
15. Understand
which children are most likely to be abused.
Although child abuse occurs in all racial, ethnic, cultural, and socio-economic
groups, physical abuse and neglect are more likely among people living in
poverty. Children who are most likely to be abused are children who are
mentally retarded, premature, unwanted, stubborn, inquisitive, demanding, or
have a disability
16. Report
suspected child abuse and neglect. Please contact your local law enforcement
agency if you think a child is being neglected, sexually abused, or physically
or emotionally abused. Children are hardly ever abused only once. If you
suspect it, you must report it. That's the law. Reporting suspected child abuse
makes it possible for a family to get help. For this please contact: